Sex Tips for Couples
Erotic sex tips for couples...

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Phoning It In
Looking to connect with a long-distance lover, or longing for someone who is just across town? Initiating phone sex doesn't have to be complicated. Your opening line can be as simple as the old favorite, "What are you wearing?" As the conversation continues, don't worry yourself about saying things just the right way. Let your imagination lead you. Often you'll find that in the right tone of voice, almost anything you say can sound supremely sexy!

Talk Dirty To Me
There are all sorts of different ways to talk dirty to your partner before, during and after sex. Before sex, to make your partner really hot, try: "I’ve been fantasizing about your hot, naked body all day." Or, "You are so sensual and sexy; I want you." To coach them to hit all the right spots during, try one-line instructions, such as "Softer," "Harder," "Slower," "Perfect," or "Oh! yeah!" After sex, to show your appreciation, try: "That was the most amazing sex I’ve ever had" or, "When can we do THAT again?"

Your Own Intimate Code
Make up secret code phrases for the sexual activities you like to share with your partner. Not only does it help open up communication without having to talk dirty, but when you’re out in public, you can hint at what you’d like to do when you get home. Try making up sex codes with common activities. Here are some examples to get your creative juices flowing:

- "Let’s bake some muffin's."
Translation: "Join me in the shower later."

- "I saw a moose."
Translation: "Let’s do a 69 tonight!"

- "I took the bus to work."
Translation: "I want to give you oral sex in the car."

Take the Lead
Teach your partner exactly how you like to be touched by placing your hand over theirs and guiding them to your pleasure spots. You can turn your partner on with your voice while showing them exactly what excites you by whispering words to describe how you like being touched, such as "softer," "harder," "lighter," or, "Just like that." Show your appreciation with works like "Oh, yeah," "That’s so hot," and "Oh, baby." Too shy (or aroused) to talk? Use moans and breathing to guide them.

Pick a Card, Any Card
Write down several of your favorite sexual fantasies or positions on separate pieces of paper, including things you’ve never done with a partner but have always wanted to try. Have your partner do the same. Fold them all up and put them in a special box, then, when you two are in the mood, pick one out and play!

Meet Again for the First Time
Pretend that you and your partner or spouse have never met before and are just seeing each other for the first time. You can either re-enact the first time you ever met or you can "meet" in a different way altogether. For instance, you might want to be extra flirtatious, but then play hard-to-get after the initial introduction. Or you can try using made-up first names and life stories to make it seem even more new and exciting. The better you can act, the more fun your intimacy will be later.

Explore Fantasies
Write down a hot story or several starring you and your lover. Ask your partner to do the same. Put each fantasy in a sealed envelope and trade them. The next time you are apart you can each read a pleasant surprise -- and really look forward to seeing each other again.

Talk Dirty to Me
There are all sorts of different ways to talk to your partner about sex -- but talking is almost always a good thing.

I Read It Online
Ever wanted to try something but didn't know how to bring it up with your partner? Tell them you "read something interesting online" and insert your fantasy!

Naughty Reading
Try reading erotica out loud to each other before bedtime. You'll either have sweet dreams or you'll stay up a little later.

Hidden Pics
It may sound like a scene out of a movie, but nothing gets your lover as aroused as pulling out the naked photo of you that you hid in their briefcase or purse in the middle of the day and getting a hot little surprise.

Detailed Narration
Next time you're having sex with your partner, describe to them what you're doing with your mouth and your hands while you're doing it.

Erotic Snail Mail
Write an erotic story about you and your lover and send it to them in the mail. It'll be the best piece of mail they've ever gotten!

Make Foreplay a Breeze
Believe it or not, even air can be used as an erotic tool--a particularly enticing one during hot summer nights. Have your lover strip down to their birthday suit and lie flat on the bed with their eyes closed. (You might even want to blindfold them.) Then, use your breath or a small, handheld fan to blow on them gently, moving from erogenous zone to erogenous zone. Soon enough, they're likely to be begging for your touch.

Savor Sweet Sensations
Consider the erotic possibilities of produce. Fruit is delicious and sensual, whether you and your partner share an erotic snack, place a morsel in your mouths to sweeten a kiss, or lightly rub juicy pieces over one another’s bodies to lick off. Try feeding your lover a succulent strawberry or a ripe piece of mango at the end of a romantic dinner and see where it leads!

Undressed and Impressed
Try a new twist on an old favorite: Perform a unique striptease dance for your lover. First, impose a strict look-but-don’t-touch rule. (Using fur-lined handcuffs or soft wrist restraints on your partner will help.) Then, as you disrobe, erotically remove articles of clothing from them, as well. Do this until you are both naked and ready for more action. You may or may not want to remove their restraints!

Mix Up Your Massages
Massage is a wonderful, intimate way to be romantic with your partner, but even massages can become routine. So mix it up! One time touch your partner using only soft, feather-light strokes over every inch of their body. Another time, use different, oiled parts of your body -- like your forearms, chest, and thighs -- to caress and rub your partner. You can even make massage a game, choosing the strokes and body parts, and different massage oils.

Get in the Zone
First, ask your partner to pick a favorite non-genital erogenous zone on their body (nape of neck, back of knee, earlobes, hands, tummy, etc.). Then, for the next 24 hours, lavish special attention on that one spot or zone. Try caressing it, kissing it, blowing on it, rubbing ice on it -- get creative! The goal is to see just how heated up you can make each other throughout the day. This will lead to some really intense sex by evening.

Sexy Scavenger Hunt
On your next big date night with your partner, tantalize them with a playful adult scavenger hunt! Hide your sex toys and other racy treats around the house and give your lover clues on where to find them. To add some fun to the game, you might want to shed a piece of clothing each time they find something you’ve hidden. But let them know they can’t get their real prize until they’ve found the very last one. As for what that prize is, we'll leave that to your imagination!

Daring Strip Poker
If you’re in a frisky mood, try playing a game of strip poker (or rummy or gin) with your partner. When you’ve both lost all of your clothes, dare each other to do silly tricks in the buff. For instance, you could dare your naked partner to do a headstand, cartwheel or jumping jacks, or attempt to give you an erotic belly or hula dance. You’re both sure to have a good laugh. Laughing with each other while naked can help boost your body confidence and is a great erotic mood enhancer. Try getting naked together with one of these fabulous games: Poker for Lovers or Take It Off.

X Marks the Spot
The next time you and your lover are together, each take a piece of paper and draw a picture or outline of your body on it (even if it’s a stick figure!). Then, mark an X on every spot you want your lover to touch, lick or kiss. When you’re both done, trade papers. Now you have an erotic treasure map that you can use to explore your partner’s body.

Heighten Your Senses
Expanding the range of sensations that you’re open to can really heighten what you experience during sex. One way you and your partner can experiment with this idea is by taking turns blindfolding one another and having each other taste a number of different foods. Choose a range of foods that are very different. Some should be salty, some should be sweet and some should even be bitter. Tasting one food after another without knowing what to expect will make each flavor more intense. If you and your partner like this experience, you can also try it using different scents (like peppermint, lemon and floral scents) or sounds (from beating drums to the sound of your breath in their ear).

Be Daring and Delicious
Surprise your lover by placing a drop of flavored oil, gel or nipple balm somewhere on your body that you know your lover will lick during foreplay. Once the action starts, watch your lover’s face as they taste this unexpected treat. Chances are, they’ll soon be searching your body for more!

Erotic Produce
Fruit is delicious and sensual, whether sharing an erotic snack, rubbing it lightly over your lover's body or licking the juice off of select body parts. Try freezing some grapes and using them like an ice cube (just be sure not to choke on them!).

Chill Out
Run an ice cube over your lover's body while it melts before sex! They'll get the chills, and then you can warm them up.